Sunday, June 25, 2023

The Dance of the Hanging Mobile

 Now we have some work to do 

         to take in each of these three selections from Holy Scripture,

                  three rather hard readings

                  each with challenges 

                           and not easy to hear, understand or receive.

 

Let me start with this:

         A long time ago, in the last century, 

when I was the director of a Hospice program in northern Minnesota 

one of my favorite duties was the training of volunteers.

Part of the training was educating the volunteers 

         and all of us working with families 

                  in which a loved one was dying or had just died.

The purpose was to become aware of and sensitive to 

the impact on the whole family system 

that the terminal illness and death had.

 

I used the example of a mobile 

in which each piece is delicately balanced 

                                                      so that it keeps its shape.

But if you remove one piece out of the mobile, 

the whole thing goes catty-wampus.

Likewise when a death occurs in a family, 

the entire family dynamics get shifted radically. 

One can expect discord and disharmony among the family members 

as they go through the painful process of grieving 

         and adjusting to loss, 

and reconfiguring as a family again.

 

In this Gospel reading Jesus said, 

         “Do you think that I have come to bring peace to the earth? 

          I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. 

      For I have come to set a man against his father, 
      and a daughter against her mother, 
      and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; 
   and one’s foes will be members of one’s own household.”

 

This is a hard message of the dynamics of the family system

                  out of kilter.

Jesus coming to bring discord within a family?         That’s what he said!

 

And not just a family system.

         The family is the basic unit of all cultures and societies.

         There’s the family

                  and then the tribe

                  and then the nation

                  and every level of institution in between.

And that includes the institutional Church even.

          The dynamics of equilibrium are at work in the institutional Church.

         We might call that equilibrium the status quo,

but, spiritually, that is not necessarily a good thing to maintain.

 

Consider this: the presence of Jesus

         as encountered by one member of the family 

can bring transformation, change, and healing for that one.

 

But as one member of a family changes, 

the balance of the family shifts, and the system is upset.

Systems seek equilibrium.

Jesus upsets equilibrium, 

in that when one realizes his presence, everything changes.

It would seem that 

                  if there is to be transformation, healing and growth, 

this kind of disruption is a necessary step in the whole process.

Before peace in a family, comes discord.

 

This is risky 

because there is uncertainty 

about whether others in the family 

will also at that time be willing to move toward change.

 

We all know of situations or relationships in which there is

a delicate balance that often is no more than 

         maintaining a status quo

precisely in order to avoid the dynamic interplay of relationships.

 

That story from Genesis gave us a good example of 

         a very touchy set of relationships 

                  exploding with disastrous results for Hagar and her son,

and for the seemingly eternal rift between Muslim and Jew 

                                             in that part of the world.

Yet that story also presents the potential for reparations.

 

Upsetting the equilibrium can also be seen as opportunity, 

         the place where the Holy Spirit can work.

The same process applies in the life of a congregation.

  

When a faith community gathers on Sunday morning, 

we engage in a deeply personal and intimate activity 

– offering prayer, sharing communion.

 

Personal prayer is offered by each 

within the context of corporate, liturgical prayer.

The personal prayer is so intimate, so close to the heart of our being, 

that for many to express what that is out loud 

in other than set liturgical forms 

is like asking that person to take off their clothes in public.

Our personal prayer prayed from the heart 

is an opening of self in great vulnerability.

 

The Eucharist we share is likewise 

                  tremendously intimate and personal, 

        as well as a corporate act of coming to the dinner table together.

To eat the flesh of the one we call Lord and God 

and to drink his blood 

is such a graphic expression of taking into ourselves, 

of letting into our bodies the Resurrection Jesus, 

that we can hardly talk about it.

 

Yet here we are, Sunday by Sunday, 

eating the flesh and drinking the blood 

and opening our hearts to whatever degree we are able 

to this awful and awesome Mystery of Life, Truth and Way.

 

Since the pandemic and the death and threat of death it brought,

         the equilibrium of the mobile of every congregation 

                   has been upset and knocked out of balance.

Now here is a truism:

         Change is a constant.

But when we have had no say in what changes,

         then we are challenged spiritually.

And at that point is when Jesus says these hard words:

         “Whoever does not take up the cross and follow me

                  is not worthy of me.

         Those who find their life will lose it,

         and those who lose their life for my sake will find it.”

 

So now here is where we turn to that third reading from Romans,

                  not the easiest of the Epistles to read.

Romans, chapter 6, with its mystical narration

         of losing ourselves in the best way possible:

                  dying in our baptism,

                  downed to our old self-identity

         and emerging from the water with an entirely new identity –

                  as a life eternally bonded in union with Christ.

 

Mystical language,

         but also what we each can experience

                  in all the ways we are daily confronted

                           with what kills life in us

                  and how the Love of God reaches through that

                           to our consciousness

         to let us know we live in Resurrection.

 

The Apostle Paul then exhorts us to 

         “consider yourselves – understand yourselves – 

         to be dead, dead to sin, 

         dead to what in your obstinacy will kill you spiritually

         and alive – now – to God in Christ Jesus.

 

But change keeps happening:

         A rector retires, 

         clergy come and go, 

         the leadership for worship changes, 

         the leadership for administration changes. 

 

New people come, different from us.

         Accepting them challenges us,

                  and yet they bring new gifts as well.

The mobile of the family system 

         finds a new configuration and balance.

 

The equilibrium gets shifted, as it must, 

and within the disturbance of change 

is the presence of the Resurrection Spirit of Jesus 

presenting us with golden opportunities 

for transformation, healing and growth 

personally and as a faith community.

 

You know, mobiles are no fun 

         when they just hang there suspended from the ceiling 

                                             without moving.

They are much more interesting 

when they dance in the breeze, the wind, the Spirit.

The balance is always changing.

 

Look where there is disturbance, 

where the mobile is dancing wildly about.

Isn’t this just what Jesus was talking about.

 

Fear not, 

be open to the Spirit for new aspects of spiritual growth.

Trust, 

and above all love one another for our Lord’s sake.

 

And our Lord always says to all of us,

“Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? 

Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. 

And even the hairs of your head are all counted. 

So do not be afraid; 

you are of more value than many sparrows.”

 

And, you know, God values the sparrows also.

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